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Article 75
December 18, 1990

Table of Attitudes

The emotional levels addressed are:
 

BLISS

EXHILARATION

ENTHUSIASM

CHEERFULNESS

CONSERVATISM

COMPLACENCY

AMBIVALENCE

ANTAGONISM

ANGER

RESENTMENT

COVERT HOSTILITY

ANXIETY

FEAR

GRIEF

APATHY
 
 The different aspects of life addressed are:

AFFINITY

ABILITY

HAVING

CONTROL

MOTION

CERTAINTY

SUCCESS

PERCEPTION

RIGHTNESS

HARMONY

CONDITION

TRUTH

RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHERS

RELATIONSHIP WITH SELF

COMMUNICATION

ETHICS LEVEL

DETERMINISM

WISDOM

IDENTITY
 Each of the next nineteen pages will display attitudes corresponding to different levels of the Emotional Scale, as reflected in one of the nineteen areas of life. These can be used in conjunction with Attitude Shifting (see JOM Article 74).

Frank A. Gerbode, M.D.
Director, IRM

PERFECT AFFINITY

It's all wonderful!

It's great!

It's fine.

It's as it should be.

It's okay.

I'm not sure I like it.

I don't like it.

I hate it.

It isn't fair.

I'll let them think everything's fine.

It's worrisome.

Get me out of here!

It's unbearable.

I don't care anymore.

COMPLETE ABHORRENCE

OMNIPOTENCE

I did it!

I'm doing it.

I can do it.

I'll do it the way I've always done it.

I'm doing well enough.

I'm not sure I can do it.

You can't do it, and I can.

I will make you unable to do it.

They won't let me do it.

Able people are dangerous.

I don't think I can handle it.

I can't handle it.

It was too much for me.

I can't do anything.

POWERLESSNESS

HAVING EVERYTHING

I have attained fulfillment.

Life is becoming more and more fulfilling.

I'm getting what I want.

I want to hang onto what I've got.

I have what I need.

I don't know whether or not I can hang onto it.

It's mine; you can't have it.

I'll destroy those who are trying to take things away from me.

It's not fair that they should have things I don't.

I'll get it, providing they don't realize what is happening.

I'm worried about losing it.

I'm losing it.

I've lost it.

I can't have anything.

HAVING NOTHING

PERFECT CONTROL

Everything has gone according to plan.

I'm in control.

Things are under control.

We should keep things under control.

Everything is being taken care of.

Things are a bit loose around here.

I control things, not you!

I must fight to maintain control.

Why are they letting things get out of control like this?

I'll be the hidden power behind the scenes.

I'm losing control of the situation.

I can't control this.

I've completely lost control of the situation.

I can't control anything.

COMPLETE LACK OF CONTROL

SOURCE OF MOTION

I made it happen!

I'm making things happen.

I go with the flow.

Let's keep going in the same way.

What is happening is acceptable.

I'm not sure this should be happening.

I'm going to throw this back in your face.

Stop!

One day I'll get even.

I'll stop them, and they'll never know who did it.

I don't know whether or not I can avert disaster.

I can't stop it!

Please stop it!

I'm completely overwhelmed.

COMPLETE OVERWH|ELM

ABSOLUTE CERTAINTY

Now I know what the truth is.

I'm learning more and more all the time.

It's nice to know.

I know what I know.

I'm comfortable with my beliefs.

I'm not too sure I'm right.

I won't let you shake my certainty.

Your beliefs are evil.

They think they know everything. What do they know?

They mustn't find out.

What if I'm wrong?

It's important for me to know, and I don't.

Please tell me everything is all right.

You can never be certain of anything; it's all confusion.

ABSOLUTE UNCERTAINTY

FINAL SUCCESS

Eureka! I've succeeded!

I am making a lot of progress.

I'm doing fine.

I'm doing as well as I should be.

I am doing an adequate job.

I don't know how things are going to turn out.

This situation is a mess.

I'm going to stop you from ruining everything.

They aren't giving me a chance.

I'll find a way around them.

I might fail.

Failure is imminent.

I have failed.

I can never win.

FINAL FAILURE

COMPLETE AWARENESS

I can see it all clearly, now.

Look at this!

Things look good.

I see it the way I see it.

I can perceive well enough.

I can't quite see it.

Your perception is wrong.

You're crazy!

Why won't they see it?

I'll hide it from them.

They might see it.

I can't hide, and I can't confront what I am perceiving.

Please confront this for me.

Everything is unreal.

HALLUCINATION

COMPLETE RIGHTNESS

I knew I was right!

Of course I'm right!

It's nice to be right.

I'm doing the right thing.

It's all right, I guess.

I don't know whether it's right or not.

I'm right and you're wrong.

You are dead wrong!

They have no right.

I'll pretend they are right.

If I'm wrong, there could be real trouble.

I'm wrong, and it is going to be a disaster.

Please make things right again!

I don't care about right or wrong.

WRONGNESS

PERFECT HARMONY

It is exquisite!

More and more harmony is occurring.

Things are pretty mellow.

Let's not rock the boat.

Things are relatively calm.

Something doesn't sit right with me.

You're a real nuisance.

I can't stand you!

They shouldn't be allowed to get away with causing so much trouble.

I'll get rid of them, somehow.

I don't know whether I can handle this.

I can't prevent the chaos.

Please give me peace.

Everything is chaotic.

DISCORD

ABSOLUTE POWER

I've won!

I'm winning.

I'm having a good time.

I'm managing.

I've adjusted to it.

I'm not really happy doing this.

Doing this is a real pain.

I hate doing this.

Why do I always have to do the work?

I'll make them think I've done what they told me to do.

If I don't do something soon, it's going to be a disaster.

I've got to get out of this situation, now!

Please help me! I can't handle it!

No one can help me.

RUIN

TRUTH

I have discovered the truth!

I'm having realizations.

I like learning new things.

It's true if it fits my belief system.

I don't really need to know any more.

I'm an agnostic.

Just try to convince me!

That's a lie!

If they knew the truth, they'd have to make it up to me.

It's better not to tell the truth.

I hope they don't find out the truth.

The truth is that it's a disaster.

The truth is that I've failed.

There is no truth.

DELUSION

UNIVERSAL COMMUNION

I love you!

I'm very happy with you.

You're nice.

We have a stable relationship.

People are OK.

I don't like people too much.

Just don't bug me.

Other people are evil.

Other people are mean to me.

You can't trust people. They are all out to get you.

People worry me a lot.

People are very dangerous.

I've lost the people I need.

I am the only one around.

COMPLETE ALIENATION

LOVE OF SELF

I'm proud of myself.

I'm very happy with myself.

I'm a nice person.

I'm fine just the way I am.

I'm OK.

I don't like myself too much.

I'm a jerk.

I hate myself.

Why can't I do things right, like other people?

They are no better than I am.

I'm a coward.

I'm weak.

I'm just a burden to others.

I have utter disregard for myself.

SELF-NEGLECT

PERFECT COMMUNICATION

I really understand people.

I have lots of people to talk to.

I like talking to people.

Let's not talk about sex, politics, or religion.

I don't mind making conversation.

People are not easy to talk to.

People are full of nonsense. You have to set them straight.

People are liars. You have to tell them off.

I can't speak directly to them. They wouldn't understand.

If they communicate with each other, they might find out about me.

I'd better watch what I say.

Communication is harmful.

I have no one to communicate with.

Communication is impossible.

COMPLETE ISOLATION

ETHICAL PERFECTION

I did the right thing.

Mine is a worthy cause.

Leave the world a better place than you find it.

Obey the laws and follow the rules.

Just don't get into hassles with people.

I won't bug people if they don't bug me.

Don't let people take advantage of you.

An eye for an eye; a tooth for a tooth.

I've been wronged.

Good guys finish last.

Survival is what is important.

Survival is the only thing that matters.

Being ethical ruined me.

I don't care about right or wrong.

AMORALITY

COMPLETE RESPONSIBLITY

We did it!

Let's do it together.

I am happy to do it.

I do what I'm supposed to do.

I'm willing to put in my time.

Maybe I shouldn't take responsibility.

It's your fault.

You are the cause of my difficulties.

No one helps me.

Everyone is out to help themselves.

I could be overwhelmed.

I am going to be overwhelmed.

Please take responsibility for me.

I am entirely a victim.

COMPLETE IRRESPONSIBLITY

ENLIGHTENMENT

Life is a peak experience.

I know how to live life fully.

I know how to get along well in life.

I know what I've been taught. A bird in
the hand is worth two in the bush.

Everything will be all right. No need to worry.

I'm not sure this is wise.

You are an idiot!

You are deliberately refusing to understand.

No one even tries to understand me.

I'm cleverer than those suckers.

I'm not smart enough to cope.

I'm losing my mind.

I am utterly confused.

There is no such thing as wisdom.

UTTER FOOLISHNESS

ONENESS WITH ALL

I am one with my surroundings.

I can be whatever I want to be.

I am happy being myself.

I am normal.

I'm just an ordinary person.

I'm not sure what I am.

I'm better than you.

I will destroy you!

I am inferior.

I'm not what I appear to be.

Maybe I can't continue to survive.

My survival is threatened.

I am destroyed.

I am not able to be anything.

NONEXISTENCE